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Ask Marilyn: This Week's 'Strictly Personal' Question
Connie Robbs of Jacksonville, Florida, writes:
Marilyn: I think there is more to this curiosity [of feeling fine with one's image in a mirror but disliking one's face in photos] than a reversed image. (August 19, 2012) I am 65 years old. I use my makeup mirror every day. In that mirror (and lighting), I am not displeased with my face. But when I see myself in the mirror at my hair salon, I am appalled at the wrinkled old woman staring back at me. Are people oblivious about how old they look? I think of the woman in her sixties with a perm, tight jeans, and high heels or the older woman with a long dated hairstyle from her thirties.
In your case, it's all about the lighting. Your makeup mirror is probably lit, and this eliminates shadows, making little wrinkles less noticeable. But the lighting at your hair salon is more likely coming from the ceiling, which enhances your wrinkles with a slight shadow. So don't be appalled! I'll bet you look just fine when you walk away from that mirror. Professional photographers spend an enormous amount of time getting the lighting just right for their purpose. With lighting, you can make people of any age—models included—look great, blah, or just awful. As for those women who don't know how to dress well, that's a different subject. You don't have anything to do with them. (And I'll bet that when they look in the mirror, they think they look just great!)